the pursuit of happyness

i just finished watching a movie 'The Pursuit of Happyness'.
it's such a touching show, adapted from a true story.
the love of a parent and the will to succeed and survive.
his hard work did pay off. for the sake of himself and his son. he made it. he slogged.
his son trusted him no matter wad. no matter how ignorant/naive/innocent the young boy may be given his age, he still trusted his dad. his life was in his dad's hands.
his wife however, didnt know how to trust her husband anymore. she left san fran where they lived to go to new york to seek a new life and a new job.
she, on the other hand, cudnt trust her husband. she didnt wanna stick ard.
it is tough i can imagine. to entrust ur heart and life to ur significant other.
however, isnt tt how love is?
mysterious and risky. being in love is a gamble. it is all abt managing risks.
can u manage it?
it is not abt controlling or dictating. it's abt compromising and supporting.
would you support ur husband if there shud be a problem in his life?
would you stick ard? or would you choose to escape?
decisions decisions decisions. choosing to stick ard is easier said than done, esp in down periods, definately.
but do remember, it was a choice u made to marry that person in the 1st place. thru thick and thin, happy times and sad, in sickness and health.
the movie did help me realise smthg. loving unconditionally is really really difficult. cos inevitably, everyone is selfish. whether we like it or not, face it, we are humans afterall, narcissistic individuals.

think about this...
how hard is it for a person to be happy?
does happiness = contentment?

how do you know when you are truly happy?
how does one measure happiness?
does success = happiness?

wad is your happiness, what is your idea of happiness and how do you think you will go about achieving it?
smthg to think about perhaps...

as time and life passes swiftly by, there's alot of things and pple we often take for granted. intentionally or unintentionally.
it is difficult to make sense of it all. esp when most of us are always caught up with our own lives, interests, committment and responsibilities.
the inner battle begins when we stop admist our busy schedules and start reflecting; looking back into things that were said and done.
that's also when reality sets in and possibly regrets and emotions.

so much for carpe diem - seize the day...
how much of it can we truly seize?
how many of us actually believe in conducting reality checks from time to time?
and who do we choose to assist us with that?

some pple think they can jolly well do it themselves, but really, can they?
i always believe that we need a 3rd person's perspective. not just our own.
who are we to judge anybody, let alone ourselves.
both micro and macro perspectives are an integral part of our entire "vision" or mentality.
both are equally important and we must ensure nvr to leave any one of them out.
that is why we need another person, a close fren, someone we can trust in confidence and all honesty to not judge or betray us, to help & guide us thru our thot process/flow.

some may question, wads the pt of thinking so much? just live and let live rite?
well my answer to that is, thinking is a way of learning. a way of self-improvement. a way to grow and a way to satisfy doubts/queries.
im sure everyone wants to work towards the betterment of themselves isnt it?
i heard this statement last nite, it is not a direct quote. but it goes smthg like this: everyone can pull off an average/be an average; but it takes effort to be at either extreme ends of the spectrum.
i cant help but agree. this is so evident in our society tdy.

well, enough rambling for me.
as usual im jus "penning" my thots.